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So I came out to meet you; I sought you, and I have found you. Proverbs 7:15 · Berean Standard Bible
She tells him she came out specifically looking for him, that she wanted to find him, and that now the moment is here. She makes it feel like fate, like he's special.
This is flattery paired with inevitability. She's not asking him to make a choice; she's narrating events as if they're already decided, as if he's exactly who she wanted. It makes him feel chosen and wanted—which clouds judgment.
The seductress
Throughout Proverbs, flattery is described as a trap. It feels good, which is exactly why it works. It bypasses reasoning and speaks directly to your desire to feel valued.
She claims deliberate pursuit of him—that she has sought him out specifically and has now found him—establishing an illusion of destiny and personal selection.
The claim 'I sought you and have found you' (דרשׁתיך ואמצאך, darashtīkh va'amtsa'eḥ) employs language typically associated with covenant-seeking or divine finding. It flatters him as special, chosen, sought-after. In reality, of course, she sought 'the simple' (verse 7) generally—he is interchangeable. But the illusion of unique selection is psychologically powerful. This mirrors the seduction pattern identified by Augustine and later psychologists: the victim is made to feel chosen.
The woman, continuing her seductive rhetoric.
This prefigures the spiritual seduction warned against in the New Testament, where false teachers similarly claim special knowledge of their followers (cf. 2 Peter 2:1-3, where false prophets 'exploit' disciples with 'deceptive words').
13She seizes him and kisses him; she brazenly says to him:
14“I have made my peace offerings; today I have paid my vows.
15So I came out to meet you; I sought you, and I have found you.
16I have decked my bed with coverings, with colored linen from Egypt.
17I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, with aloes, and with cinnamon.
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